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T.M.I.: The thing about exes

The funny thing about exes is that everyone makes a big deal about bumping into them and wondering how they’ll tell their current girlfriend or boyfriend about it. Personally, i don’t think it should be a big issue unless: a) you flirted with them and you feel guilty about telling your partner about it because you know it’s wrong but technically, you didn’t do anything wrong, b) your current partner is an unreasonable, controlling psycho with irrational fears and crippling insecurities, c) you still have feelings for them or d) a little bit of everything.

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For example, a while ago an old fling slid into my DMs wanting to “catch up” (but honestly, non-conceitedly speaking, i don’t think his intentions were in an actual catch up catch up but like a catch up catch up...do you get what i’m saying?) while pulling all the stops.

Helpful tip; if you’re going to have even an inkling of a chance at making me put my relationship at risk, you should at least look like Zayn Malik and be like, a billion dollars richer. Just as a side note, I don’t see any harm in showing a little bit more effort by sprucing yourself up a bit and slathering on some appeal with your offer. And maybe try something more original than the “i want to get to know the new you better/it’s been so long” card.

For instance, if you were going to try and lure me out of a glistening five-star restaurant where everyone knows my name and there’s a free flow of champagne and all the caviar my greedy heart desires… to instead eat at some warung in a dark alley in the middle of the night, then at least tell me something like… i can get my fill of nasi campur with five different toppings for a tiny fraction of the price and that i can help myself to all the telur masin they have to offer, right? Don’t just stand there in your selipar Jepun in front of the alleyway and be like, “bleaaaaah warung food is guuuuud i likeeeee tohhh” and expect me to come running.

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So it didn’t come off as too much of a surprise to me when he swiftly moved on and proceeded to block me off Instagram when i wouldn’t play ball. While i really dgaf, to go to such lengths just to hide a stunted, fleeting and admittedly regrettable acquaintanceship is baffling. Almost everyone has exes, we all have pasts, i don’t know why any delusional person would be offended by the fact that “omg i can’t believe you dared to have a life before me! You mean you weren’t just sitting around and waiting for me a.k.a. the love of your life to fall into your lap?”.

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So a few weeks back, my boyfriend comes rushing home and shoves his phone under my nose. It’s his ex come back to haunt him, as if moving a thousand miles away wasn’t enough of a deterrent for her. Unfazed and slightly amused, i read through the conversation and pass him back the phone.

Bewildered but relieved, he asked me if it bothered me that he’d replied so cordially towards her. To which i replied “not at all” because: 1) i’m confident enough that he loves me and that our relationship won’t suffer any considerable losses from the exchange, 2) even if he somehow, by miracle or witchcraft, falls back in love with her, then i’ll have successfully dodged a rusty bullet anyway, and 3) even if he does go back to her, he’ll find out soon enough again that she is nowhere as interesting or bedazzling as moi.

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So, no, i wasn’t worried in the least.

Although, if there is one thing that i have to say irked me the most, then it’s the fact that she called me fat! Again! I mean, to text my boyfriend and casually flirt with him and ask him why he hasn’t been to see her lately is one thing when she’s already married and a mother; to tactlessly imply that i’m nothing but a child for not wanting to get married yet is another (but thank you nonetheless for indirectly saying that i’m young, i don’t get that a lot nowadays tbh *blushes* BUT THAT’S NOT THE POINT) but to call me fat when there are so many other things that you can call me out for is unacceptable! Zero points for originality!

I won’t say that, yes, i may have more chins than a Chinese phone book but i can always lose weight while you will always be ugly and hyprocritical on the inside yadda yadda yadda because that makes me equally as unoriginal (although i did technically just say it). I also won’t say that i have better brows than you and that your foundation could use a good five layers of pore-minimizing primer underneath and that you look like an expired D-list kpop idol trainee who’s one butt dance away from being a comedienne because…that would just be petty, right?

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The first time she said it was five years ago when my boyfriend and I were just starting to date, during their final meeting when he told her that we were official and to stop contacting him for good (just to clarify, at this point they’d been broken up almost a year already but were still talking). So being the gracious new girlfriend who was way younger and fresher, i let her snarky remark go. But half a decade later and after much stalking of my profile, it seems like my weight is still the only thing that she can use against me. And to that i say, to each her own coping mechanism.

So, the point of this post, is that exes should be harmless to your relationship if treated right. To anyone who is dating or is a psychotic, insecure boyfriend or girlfriend who balks at the idea of your partner encountering their former flames, i wrote this post in hopes of making you think. About yourself, your partner and your relationship.

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And if you’re also the type of psychotic, insecure partner who flat out loses their shit when their boyfriend or girlfriend so much as breathes the same air as someone else of the opposite sex, the point of this post is to let you know that somewhere out there is a special asylum that’s waiting for your primitive mind to check into.

P.s. I’m sorry for the gif heavy post but STYLESIRCUIT being a BS-free zone made it unfeasible to post actual relics.

Fashion posts resume next week! But i hope you enjoyed yet another T.M.I. post from me ❤

xx

SS

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Art of Lookbooking

9.30 am: *alarm rings* *hits the snooze button*

9.45 am: Ditto

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*twelve minutes later, opens one eye, lies through teeth*:

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11.51 am: I finally stumble to UBD’s FIT building where my friend Arif is shooting his “Welcoming 2017” lookbook. As fate would have it, it turns out that i’m dressed according to theme in a Bunnyboo favourite, a.k.a. denim on denim, which can only mean one thing… Stylesircuit cameo! I swear it was purely coincidental and not part of some guerrilla audition in the hopes of being casted in the lookbook. But i did want to snoop around and see exactly what kind of work goes into the making of one.

If we’re being upfront, there are still plenty of people out there who don’t understand what a lookbook is (“apakan ni? Music video kah? MV kah ni, sis, MV?”) and admittedly, in the very beginning, i didn’t get it either.

But then #ootds became a big thing. Then Snapchat Velfies (i.e. video selfies) became an even bigger thing. So basically, lookbooks happen when OOTDs and Velfies fall in love and have babies.

In addition to this nugget of key information, here’s everything else you never knew you wanted to know about the art of shooting a fashion music video– specifically this Bunnyboo83 signature lookbook.

Here’s seven things that went into the making of it:

1. Technically speaking, the shooting of a lookbook is incredibly on-the-go and spontaneous. As serious as Bunny takes his shoots, the only thing that’s pre-determined is the location, time, theme and outfits- but even those are flexible. So rule number one, don’t be anal about things and just go with the flow. And yeah, i’m aware i’m being totally hypocritical right now.

2. Speaking of outfits, there are no fancy schmancy changing rooms to cater to their multiple outfit changes, just in case anyone starts imagining lavish diva lounges offset. In fact, here’s a candid outtake of Arif getting changed in the passenger seat of his videographer’s car!

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Behind the glitz and glamour of it all…

3. Speaking of videographer, the man behind the camera in question also happens to be our good friend Syaz (@amnsyazani on Instagram). He does freelancing as well, so if you’re a budding lookbooker and would like him to shoot your next one, feel free to slide in his DMs and tell him Shy from Stylesircuit sent you. Not because you’ll get like, a discount or anything, it’s just to give me a mild ego boost.

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Just doing their thang

4. Maya Bakar, the co-star of the lookbook (in case we’re still keeping up with the pretense that you don’t already stalk or follow her on Instagram), doesn’t “do public toilets”. As in she doesn’t frequent them like us mere mortals do, which frankly speaking doesn’t come as much as a surprise, gorgeous goddess that she is. I wouldn’t either, if only i wasn’t the unfortunate owner of an undisciplined bladder.

5. Insider’s tip: You don’t need to audition to be in one of Bunnyboo83’s signature lookbooks. All you have to do is show up dressed intentionally or unintentionally according to theme and Arif will happily insist you join in the shoot in the form of a cameo– which is exactly what happened with the case of resident cutie Discofissh Min, and I.

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Denim quadruplets! + Syaz

6. It’ll come to you as a pleasant surprise that despite the quality of the videos, his shoots are done on zero budget. It probably helps to have an in-house videographer on hand, but i love the fact that it’s 100% pure hard work and dedication that goes into Arif’s fruit of labour. Anyone with money can shoot a pretty video but the real backbone of his work involves none other than plenty of eye-straining hours spent in front of a wide-screen tv and a laptop, unkempt hair, plenty of cigarettes and then some more time spent staring into the depths of his closet. Throw in lots of aesthetic daydreaming and voilà!

7. As embarrassing as you might expect standing around and making come-hither faces in front of a camera in public to be, it’s really not as awkward as you think. Granted there were a few frozen moments where we stared down some passersby, almost daring them to say something about filming on campus grounds and whatnot. But other than that we were very much just doing our own thing the entire time.

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Fact: I’m usually really paranoid about stores or public places which prohibit photography or filming in its premises. I just don’t get them. It’s probably because of that one time, that oneeeee timeeee i was feeling myself enough to take a mirror selfie in Uniqlo. Next thing i hear is this huge booming announcement over the speakers proclaiming the store’s policies against picture taking. It wasn’t even a pre-recorded announcement, it was coming from the microphone at the cashier. Creyes. Obviously, i got plenty of side-eye from the other Uniqlo shoppers standing around me. I wanted to throw on about eighty of their thermal wear sweaters and die from embarrassment in my simulated sweater hell.

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Here is the proof in the actual picture i took in Uniqlo, 160 weeks ago, just moments before i was publicly shunned as a narcissistic pariah

That’s all! I hope you’ll come away knowing slightly more about lookbooks than you previously did. The next post will be a T.M.I. one coming up very soon. I posted a sneak preview on my Instagram story a few days ago wondering if i should post it and i got some wonderful feedback from some of you guys (which i love)! As usual, it’s an unpopular opinion, so brace yourself.

xx,

SS